The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

Less drastic means "easier". Give her what she wants. Simple as that.

exactly my point. what are you expecting by taking the 'easier' route?

you admitted to failing at GAL, giving space, and detaching.
to me, GAL should be the easiest thing to do.
yet, you failed at that too.
you fear saying things to drive her away.
GAL doesn't involve words. it's actions. you. getting out.
doing something for yourself.
there are no words exchanged. there is no agenda or whatever against your w. you are not hurting her by GAL-ing. unless your version of GAL involves finding one-night stands.

the choice is yours.

GAL is one of the easiest things to do? Yet threads I read LBS talks about how difficult it is.

Just as someone said I was being "pissy" You come across as argumentative. I understand you all are only trying to help, I get it.

I admitted my failures in my DB attempts. You honestly think any of this is easy "soft" or "harsh"?

If GAL and detaching is part of both the easy or "soft" and the "harsh" Then where is the wrong in starting off "soft" and GAL/Detach the right way and see where it gets me in a week or so and if no improvement I will take the "harsh" route. It is very difficult to have the speech with my W when all she does is sleep all day.