help with a plan

[flowmom]

(((IDU))) it sounds like you're being really hard on yourself. I believe that you've done the best that you can. You had great advice, but let's face it...following DB advice when you're shattered is very hard and for some, impossible. You moved forward as soon as you were ready to. There is no magic wand to dismiss fear...it's a process and one that you are grappling with. I'm there with you.

I'll try to write more in my thread about exactly what I'm doing to deal with my horror at what this is doing to the children. IMO, it's a very important element to the letting go process for parents like us.