So great to see the support - I have a lot of reading ahead of me it looks like!
I'll definitely read more about what defines a MLC, but I thought the chapter on it in DR hit pretty close to home. He suddenly got very into himself - new fancy clothes, fancy restaurants, hanging with new (work) friends who had very different values from our core group of friends, lost 20lbs, fancy new car, bad sleeping habits, obsessed with success at work, pulled away from family and friends. There was an EA that came out at the beginning of all this mess. I believe he ended it right after he fessed up to it - and I really do believe that after checking phone logs and paying attention to how he spent his time. He has been living in an apartment since February. I left for about a month and a half in Dec/Jan and when I came back he tried to stay at home for a few weeks but felt negative feelings creeping in that the counselor said we shouldn't encourage (duh) so he left.
I am a SAHM who definitely lost herself after having DD. I have realized this year to be me and not just a wife or mother. Lost 15lbs, looking pretty good, and I was doing a really good job at GAL. I think once we started our 'all in' approach after the counselor told us to end in, I quit the GAL part and started just clinging to the time H was around. I think losing that focus was part of the reason that I lost my cool this week. One of the things I've already identified that I want to do is get a part time job to get a break from the mom job.
Anyway, I will definitely spend most of tonight reading up on stuff and I'm sure will have more questions and thoughts coming up!
