I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Allen I'm very afraid to put a sig together with any details at all because I am not so sure he won't find this site. He knows about DR because I read it last year and we talked about parts of it last year, so he's aware of the author and title. Even very recently I talked to him about material in it, like the day or so before he left. If I put our ages or dates or anything, he'll be sure to find me. My screen name is not my real name but he's smart enough I think to figure it out. Just too paranoid right now, sorry ;-)

Exposure has been to both families, many mutual friends, and to my own friends who are less connected with him. A lot of us work in the same field and I do think that one friend who is more his than mine may be the one who told another, who told another, and so on and that's why it "got out". Either that or the OW's side exposed; heck even her ex may be responsible.