I understand the missing touch part, SF! It's hard to not crave that when you haven't had it and want it... yet, believe me, you don't want it at all costs! You want it from someone who loves you - who respects you. That, of course, can only come after you respect yourself. I think so many times we worry about "should we do this or should we do that" and frankly, if we just let it all go and just do what's best for US without regard to the WAS, THAT is what is the right thing to do/not do - for the R as well as for ourselves. I know I've had problems with this. We have to stop worrying about what our spouses are thinking/feeling and just go on with our lives. That, ultimately, is what makes them attracted to us once again. Once THEY start pursuing instead of the other way around, THAT is when to let your guard down a little.
