After reading DR, I am pretty sure my H is in the middle of a MLC. My latest sitch is here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2030704#Post2030704 which includes a link to my original thread and the beginning of this mess. What I learned from DR is that patience and time are HUGE when dealing with a MLC. And I went and lost my cool Tuesday and screwed it all up. Totally regret it! Now what?