I know its hard to avoid them, but YOU do not bring them up. Do not quickly respond to her, by text or phone. Let them go. Give her "her space". Continue to do your 180 and GAL's.

My W still is bringing it up, but slowly backing off. The reason, I do not argue about it. I do not bring it up. I listen closely to her every word and validate her feelings. She sees now I am listening, agreeing and have 'droped the rope'.

Me 31 Wife 34
(Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6
Married 3/3/01
Separated 6/4/10
Bomb 6/14/10
Served 6/22/10
EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10
Now Back Together 8/1/10