I guess a followup question I have is this: I am finding it very hard to be angry at him. I know that sounds insane. Yes I am entirely betrayed and hurt, but I find it hard to be angry. I guess because again I keep thinking this isn't really him right now but this "addiction" talking. Or the "mid-life crisis" talking. People are bothered by the fact that I haven't exploded or burned his stuff or whatever, and I just can't summon anger at him. I am angry at the OW, totally, and I don't deny that he made this choice as much as she interfered with his marriage, but why can't I feel anger, or is that coming? It has been about 3 weeks since it all started.
How much, and what type of, intel are you gathering?
Trust me, I had a much harder time with the "loving" half of the "loving detachment" thing than I did with the "detachment" half, once I saw and heard what I did.
