Just found this thread...it is GREAT!!! I have recommended Dobson's Love Must be Tough on several threads. It is the first book on tough love and the basis for the whole line of thinking that respect is as important as love. You MUST respect yourself before anyone else will.
I have applied the letting go philosphy with much success. I can personally speak to the fact that in doing so, you have the best chance to gain back not only yourself, but possibly your WAS. It's worked for me previously and right now, has been my saving grace in keeping my sanity. Although, I do not claim to be an expert on exactly how to do it and don't profess to always doing it well. That's part of my issue right now in my current sitch because I don't know how much of it to do, not being able to prove an A. I just know that everytime H says he might want out, I say, "there's the door," in some way, shape, or form.
I am curious though. Early in the thread someone mentioned ways to be more attractive to your spouse - that there were great tips on men being more attractive to women, but wanted more tips for women to be attractive for men. I have to say that I'm curious about that as I look to do 180s and GAL!!!
