Re-Connecting

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Ok now I'm really confused. A woman I know at work is going through a
D. We obviously have an instant connection since we are going through the same mess. This woman called me lastnight and we had a nice conversation.

We talked very little about D but we talked about how she is processing and moving forward. Little did I know my W was listening to our conversation. This morning she was going come with me to take son to swim lessons.

She was getting ready and I asked how soon she'd be ready to go. She said I'm not going. I asked why and she said "I don't want to talk to you". I said ok see you later. She said I won't be home tonight. I said ok

I left and she sent me a text. It said "get this refy done asap, I won't be here when you are here. It's pathetic you sneak around to talk to this chick"

ummmm isn't that what she's been doing the past few months?????

I haven't responded to text

#1 Be careful with your D friend. Both of you are very vulnerable in many ways.

#2 Interesting, your W's reaction. Don't try to talk her out of it. Just let it set there. You have nothing to defend.

#3 Don't respond to her text. Let that set, too.

Your W is in so many different directions - it gives me hope for y'all, actually. One day she's "whatever it takes," then "I didn't know we were reconciling so I called OM," to mad b/c you are "sneaking around with this chick." Whew! One can get whiplash watching her gyrations. She clearly doesn't know what she wants. That's 100% better for you than if she were completely dug in and committed to leaving. No matter what she may say, if you just look at her track record this month alone, one can see that she is confused.

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