SR - I feel your pain. My track was similar to you but WH moved out 4/17/10 and it hotly working on his R with OW. My kids don't know about it yet, but I'm sure it's coming.
Larry gave me the same advice and I'm trying every day to live it. The most challenging part is figuring out how to interact with WH each day.
I tried minimal contact (have to talk some as we have kids) last week and I guess I was successful as he mentioned to me that I was avoiding him and he got the feeling it a strain for me to talk to him. So, I take it from that that I didn't come across as polite and happy. However, maybe I did and he just wants to put a negative spin on it. But this week I've talked to him a little more. I also have tried thinking about him as the neighbor.
Keep up the good work.
Oh, yeah - good christians, what a laugh. It just underscores what everyone around here says - the WH and A partner will go to incredible and unbelievable lengths to justify their affair.
My WH and the OW profess to be great Christians too. Here's what OW put on her facebook page: "I live for Christ. He is my way, my light, my strength, and my savior Whose with me?"
I about threw up!!!!! I also encourage you to forget about the OW. That is VERY challenging, but I understand the value in filling your mind with positive thoughts about improving yourself and the lives of your kids instead of dwelling on what you can't change. The negative energy takes up valuable mind space. I try daily to re-focus my thoughts away from OW and the A. Sometimes successfully, sometimes not.
Hang in there! I'm praying for you. I pray you can turn your situation around before he leaves. I had hoped for that outcome for me, but alas he won't give her up. I keep that hope inside but recognize that I must move forward so that's where I'm focusing.
Have a great 4th. Do something awesome with the kids.
--------------------------------------- Him: 47 Me: 47 M - 23.5 years, T- 27 years D: 12 D: 5
Separated: 4/17/10 OW: 46
--------------------------------- M 47, H 47 DD 5, DD 12 Married 23.5 years, T 27 years Separated 4/17/10 EA/PA - started probably about 3 years ago
Whose with me?" 
