BBJ - Thanks for sharing that and I am glad I asked you. I like your IC and I think she has Dan and his antics pretty much spot on. I especially like the fact that she has told you to ignore his vague texts and that if you come to find out later he was at the ER with your sick child, that doesn't mean you are the bad parent for not calling him, it means HE was irresponsible for not leaving a specific message relaying the urgency of the situation.
Excellent advice and it will relieve you of feeling responsible for his shortcomings. I am positive that as you implement these new boundaries that he is going to lash out at you, try to guilt you even more, and maybe be vindicitive. As your IC said he has "addict" tendencies and as you wean him off BBJ time he's going to go through some withdrawal symptoms.
