So after talking with Larry and reading books and posting this week, there are several phrases that have stuck in my head, including:
"Be a better princess" (Puppy Dog Trails)
"Keep him guessing. My husband still comes home every night after 40 years because he never knows what he'll find." (Poster on another board)
"Don't worry about what he's doing. Change yourself, secure your children, live your life. YOU are in control of you, not him." (Larry)
"Have you ever seen a WH leave his wife with no plans for a relationship with OW?" (Me) "NEVER" (Allen)
"When you change, people around you have to adapt." (C. Carter)
So...
With all these things in mind plus everything ELSE I've been learning the last few weeks, I'm working on a game plan to shake things up a little bit, enrich my children, and have some fun. Oh - and get WH rethinking some things as well. These include:
*Spring cleaning (okay not so fun, but necessary) *Furniture rearrangement *Household repairs *Word of the day (new word at dinner to discuss and add to vocabulary) *Weekly field trip (to places around the area) *Friday Night Travels (study and cook food from new country each week)
I've been thinking about the Friday Night Travels for a while after I went to Trader Joes one time and brought back foods from 5 different countries (sushi, enchiladas, Greek salad, etc.) and called it "International Night". The kids loved it! I've been putting it off because WH is hit or miss with dinner times.
But you know what? Who needs him? My children are certainly worth the effort! Besides - it just might pique his interest enough to be home for Friday night dinner...instead of staying at Bible Study with OW (anyone else see the hypocrisy in that, or is it just me?)
I'm also continuing to exercise and "reinvent" my style, which has been sorely overdue.
