i am no veteran.
and i can't believe i'm actually responding to this.
but from one stubborn person to another.

listen to what CG, gucci loafer, coach, sandi2, etc .. say.
they know what they are talking about.

i can't believe i'm responding to this because i was once as stubborn as you are now.
giving excuses for not doing something.
i'm not worthy to give advice because i'm still working on me. but i woke up a few weeks back.

i still fall back and spiral into a toilet bowl
but i get what the vets are talking about.

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That is not the case.I am just telling you what lies ahead. So many of you are saying "tell her to leave" when legally I cannot.

why talk about what lies ahead?
what about the present? how are you dealing with you in the present to prepare yourself for the future?

you say you are db-ing.
what kind of things have you done or tried?
reading the books don't count.
what were the effects?

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I have thought about it long and hard and I am at the point where I am ready to let her go as so many of you suggested BUT there are so many variables involved that it is not that easy (for me at least because I am living it).

variables? what variables? you either drop the rope or you don't and smother her and drive her away.