Okay - I hear what you r saying but I don't fully get how to meld it with my sitch. How can I demand he tell me where he's taking dd if I won't tell him? If I refuse to respond, what if he does the same while he has my dd?
I ended up sending him a four word text "at home - swimming later" as my response. I later had dd call him, as he requested. Again, I'm thinking that I don't want him not having her call me when he has her.
Also: he has one more day of work and then has a week off. He wants to take dd for much of that time - we haven't officially negotiated start and end times except that he can pick her up on Saturday. The big problem he's encountering is that he has no where to take her overnight. He might be able to stay with a single male friend, but I think he knows she would tell me and that would put him in a bad situation. I'm not really worried about my dd if he did that - the guys I can think that he'd ask are good guys and wouldn't pose a risk to my dd. My dd really misses her dad and is bummed every night when I tell her he won't be home. So I want to do what needs to be done to affair bust, but not hurt my dd in the process.
In terms of passing her thru someone, I have to admit I'm nervous I am wearing out my welcome with so many requests to people. Saw SIL at MIL's house tonight (was a surprise - didn't know it would happen). I think MIL told her that I sent work email - she was nice to me but didn't even mention getting together tomorrow. The real test will be if she texts me tomorrow about getting together - if not, then she's decided I've gone too far. MIL was still nice and cordial to me irregardless.
I've got GAL plans Saturday: dancing with coworkers (female!). I'm assuming my H will have dd, but if not, I will ask MIL to watch her. Yeah, my H doesn't like me going out - found that out last weekend. I have not and never will cheat, tho, so I'm not planning revenge of that sort.
Still slightly worried that he will be so low once work exposure is obvious that he won't think he can ever pull himself out of the hole - and he will blame it all on me. But too late - just have to wait and see what happens.
