Too tired to write much at the moment, but when I got home tonight I went straight over to the neighbors who have been very supportive of me. They are REALLY good friends. After an hour or so, W comes walking up with 2 beers in her hand. She recently had an issue because I was talking with neighbors about our problems and she felt she was being judged. I asked neighbor wife to email her and let her know that I wasn't bagging her and they weren't judging either of us. They are both divorced.
She wrote a terrible note, so I wrote one for her instead. I didn't want W to think I was trying to poison everyone against her, which I am not, I am just seeking help. So W gets the note and is very appreciative and everyone tells me I am too soft for wanting to relieve W's feelings, but I can't help it.....
Anyway, things go well, W seems happy and is laughing and heavily involved in the conversation. She then leaves to get kids in shower and I get a text from OM's wife asking me to call her. Apparently OM is out tonight, but isn't where he said he would be. She has GPS device on his car and she wants to know where W is. I say she is here with me, so no issue there. She is very upset and I don't really know what to tell her. She say OM still has many incoming calls at the time my W goes to work in the am and believes they are still in contact, even though both deny it. I am guessing they are, but have no way to prove it. We hang up and she feels a bit better that W is not with her H, but she is still concerned.
I go home, tuck the kids in goodnight and grab some dinner very late. W is sitting on the couch and I take my dinner and another beer (quit drinking) over to the neighbor's house and say nothing to W. I stay until well after she goes to bed and then come home and type this.
I am confused as to why she came over and was so personable? Neighbors say it is all a front and she is getting ready for court and to be careful. I am not sure what to think at this point. Is DB working or are they right that she is just playing me? Neighbor says he never saw his uncle's wife so attentive as when she was getting ready to divorce him.
I really want to bust them together, but neighbors warning me of my reaction if I DO see them together. Warning the same as DDay, be careful and do not confront them. Will be used against you in court.
Not sure what is up or where to go at this point. Starting to get tired of this situation and am feeling much better about moving on. Told neighbor about meeting with IC and she said it sounded very healthy. Nobody can actually believe my attitude at this point.
Anybody have any thoughts? Looking for some direction from those in the know.
