As for freaking out if someone goes to the store for five minutes, up until about a year ago he hated me to be out for even an evening so I rarely did it. So maybe that is part of it, I don't know.
I see. So maybe the problem is that he doesn't feel strong and independent? Maybe this whole "need" thing is him projecting his insecurity?
That's sickeningly codependent. How long were you married and "taking all the blame for your M problems"? Taking all the blame is a form of control too. It's making yourself a fixer.
Maybe it's not that you are strong or independent, but you are--by taking all of the responsibility--a fixer, and he doesn't want to be fixed?
Not that it excuses cheating and such. But... maybe he just didn't want to be married to his Mom?
We have a few fixers her. OIN is a fixer. Truegritter is a recovering fixer. There are a few fixers on the MLC forum.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 07/02/1002:50 AM.
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