It's NO-LOSE. You employ the BEST CHANCE you got at getting them back, and, even if it DOESN'T work, you GET YOURSELF back. And THAT is what DB is all about, IMHO.
when i first started here, i was adamant that my first objective was to save the m. even at the cost of losing me.
saving the m was more important to me than myself.
if my m ends in d, no amount of db-ing was going to save me from the grip of depression. even now i have doubts as to whether i will survive.
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The beauty of the "letting go" approach is that it is both, simultaneously, the BEST way to regain your own self-esteem and personal authenticity, AND the most effective method of attracting back your spouse.
i like the first part of the sentence. i know i need to regain my self-esteem back. the best way to attract my spouse back? i dunno. i think that's what landed me here in the first place.
i could be singing a different tune soon. i would love to get myself back. the old me was way nicer and not self-centered. ever since the d-bomb was dropped, it has been poor me, poor me, poor me. i have neglected everyone else and it's been all about me. i care less about everyone else and care only about me. this is not who i want to be.
