I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

The only reason I want him back is because I have a very hard time believing that the person before me now is really and truly him. We were together for so, so many years and there was never a hint of this behavior, not a scrap of anger or mean-spiritedness or looking at or even conversing with other women. I knew where he was pretty much at all times. We were one another's best friends completely and really excluded other people so much. All holidays spent together, never went out separately, entirely intertwined, which I know wasn't the healthiest thing NOW but that's how it was. It was only in this past year that he changed so much, and this last part of his transformation happened literally overnight. One day an amazing wonderful marriage, the next day this bomb and from then on, I feel like when I look at him there is something very dead behind the eyes. Like an alien took him. So the reason I want him back is that I find it very hard to believe this is really him and I think he is going through something very powerful that has taken him over and my hope is that he comes out of it at some point before I've thrown in the towel. I don't feel in can throw in the towel yet.