Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[xin]

i do want to save my M, but my H would need to want to do the same for DB'ing to work. Right now, i don't think my H would notice any chance I'm making, in fact it could be viewed as pursuing. I believe my best strategy now is to detach.

I also feel DB is more appropriate for the party wanting out, hence the introduction "Love the one you're with"