For those of you hurting and searching for your answers...
I have heard many people say "I don't want to look back and say that I didn't try everything"
I've said this and i'm making one last effort for M; called OW to ask her to give our M a chance , got my H to go to a counselling session, and am trying in-house separation while detaching. First 2 strategies have failed, now i'm left with the in-house separation. I'll give this another few weeks, probably till the end of July. If that also fail, then I will pack up and leave, never to return. And I won't ever look back and think that i didn't do everything i can to save our M.
M 39 H 41 T9 M6 EA found Dec 09 Separated Apr to Jun 10 Currently in house separation