does letting them go and detaching mean accepting that the m is over and not worth salvaging?
that's the vibe i'm getting.
Nope. Absolutely not.
It means that the marriage isn't worth salvaging at any price. It's NOT, for example, worth checking your own personal integrity at the door.
The beauty of the "letting go" approach is that it is both, simultaneously, the BEST way to regain your own self-esteem and personal authenticity, AND the most effective method of attracting back your spouse.
It's NO-LOSE. You employ the BEST CHANCE you got at getting them back, and, even if it DOESN'T work, you GET YOURSELF back. And THAT is what DB is all about, IMHO.
