There was NO WAY to save my marriage the way it stood. We both needed to change to have a new marriage. I was willing. She was not. That's how things stand.
isn't this true for everyone who is here? the marriage 'as is' cannot be saved. both sides must change.
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Not that I am an angel, but I didn't cheat, and I have been adressing my problems and letting them go.
how do you know that the problems have been addressed and that you've let them go? one of the issues i had was intimacy. initially, i thought .. well, when i don't feel an emotional connection, then i don't want to be intimate. easy, right? wrong. it went deeper. i verbalized for the first time why i had intimacy issues. it opened my eyes. ok, how do i know that i've addressed the issue? i'm not about to go out and try it with someone.
