coach and mr. bond, for the first time in four months, we have PLANS to go OVERNIGHT together for a camping trip next weekend. If i ignore him now, I will lose whatever chance i have to reconcille. i know this. is there not a somewhere inbetween at all? Isn;t there a way to hook him at all before makinmg demands or pulling away. i'm telling you guys he will NOT persue me if i pull away. he didn;t know i was seeing nayone. if he did, he would have pulled away completely and used it as a justification for his leaving. This is what I am looking at. can't i go on our weekend and just tell him i feel like he needs to show something??
wouldn't it be better to be jerked around then to loose him completely? can;t i set boundaries in a few weeks after a couple of decent dates and times together?
Nope. If you don't establish them now then he's going to keep jerking you around until another woman comes along.
Look. Actions speak louder than words. He said he wanted you, yet asked you to make him food. If he wanted you HE would do it. Then he didn't follow through on your request. Translated: His needs are still more important than yours.
Draw the line in the sand now. This is exactly what will happen. He will contact you. After you don't respond back, he will ask if you have a "problem" with him. If you still don't respond, he is going to start getting angry. When you continue to ignore him, he will say that you're a "bitch" for ignoring him and get louder. Don't fall for it.
Re-attach when he shows that he is REALLY willing to give you what YOUR needs are. Not his.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
So why didn't he call the other night? What was his excuse? Or did he even bother giving you one?
I thought that it was a MAYBE camping trip. Did he make definite plans? Did he give you details such as timing, etc. If he hasn't, then he's jerking you around again.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
but if i persue him, he is showing an interest now. before he wasn't. i thought we were supposed to do whatever works. the camping trip is supposed to be fore sure. are you guys saying i shouldn;t go.
So why didn't he call the other night? What was his excuse? Or did he even bother giving you one?
I thought that it was a MAYBE camping trip. Did he make definite plans? Did he give you details such as timing, etc.
For all you know he could have just been bored when he said he'd take you out. He has to show action first. Let's put it this way...you weren't really pursuing him. In fact, you were seeing someone else. Then he started calling you. But the minute you asked him for something (pursuit) he backed away. So obviously when you give him time to himself, he pursues you rather than the other way around.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
i dont know what his excuse is because he still hasn;t called me. the camping trip is supposed to be for sure, though. he wasnt calling to ask me out when i was seeing someone, and he didnt know i was seeing someone. he called to discuss the divorce. i asked what i could do and he told me to get a job so i did...
ok he called. i didn't answer. he texted and asked if i wanted to go to a movie with him and his family tomorrow night. i was thinking about calling him tomorrow and saying yes, are you guys ok with that?
