Detaching means that you release expectations and attachments to what your spouse may or may not be feeling. When the bomb drops, you find yourself analyzing every move that the WAS is making and trying to make sense of it.
Detaching is to let go of what you can't control. Only they know (or not) why they do what they do. You can't "tell" them how they should act or feel. They have to find out themselves. So you let go and let them find their own path.
It doesn't mean that you don't stop caring for them. It's just that you understand that they have to do the figuring out and not have you "try" to figure it out for them.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
