His sister won't be intermediary for you? Everyone is afraid of him?
Wow
And ya, THREE months at least... This is like school here, he needs some education and practice on being an adult... And he can't do that if he's living with you... Delayed gratification is the test here...
If he told OW to not contact him you can keep an eye on the PC to make sure he keeps to that, but I bet my retirement plan he won't...
If no one will work with you and him then stick to emails, do NOT talk to him in person...
Asking for "space" is a classic move... It means he wants to cake eat and wants you to agree to it... Tell him no... He's had enough time to think on this and you are moving forward... He' wasted too much of your time as it is...
Get separation orders put together and make sure he knows you are doing it... start the train moving so he knows he cant' just string you along anymore... If he knows there's a clock ticking on him he will do somethign, if he thinks you are just sitting at the new house waiting on him he will take his sweet time...
Write down the minimum requirements for him to meet and send them in email numbered and very clear
a. End the affair b. End all contact - both directions c. Transparent communication info d. Mandatory family therapy attendance for at least three months e. Change IC's f. Living separate from you for at least three months g. No contact letter is sent in print to OW home in the mail and is read and signed by both of you... it is printed and signed by both of you, stamped and mailed by him and registered so you know he sent it h. Change all contact info and internet accounts (facebook etc) i. Follow family therapy instructions to the letter without dispute
etc... He needs to see that..
You really need that three months so he tastes the distance... hopefully you read protection.pdf I hand out so you have those details
Don't let him string this along... Every spouse asks for "space" when you confront them like this... It's a smoke screen and they all try it... every... single... one
