Well that was interesting ... H dropped by tonight to pick up kids for a long weekend, and one of them mentioned OW's name to him and said, "Daddy, Mom says she doesn't know (blank). You should send her a picture of her." I immediately said, "No, but I've heard a lot about her." Upon which H felt quickly compelled to say to kids, "Did you tell her about (so-and-so) or (so-and-so)?" Seemed like a pretty knee-jerk effort to deflect if you ask me.