I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Can I get some clarification on why this is supposed to work? This seems to be driving him to hate me and cushy up to the OW more. He's all protective of HER and not wanting HER to be hurt, and keeps saying that I will have exposure "on my soul" and that he won't have anything on his because he "came clean to me and then moved out" (of course he has made no move to file for divorce or anything, and that sort of presumes on his part that since he moved out that what he is doing is perfectly ok). I had asked at some point why he had to take it to this level, why he didn't have the courage to end things with me before he went to the degree of infidelity, and why up to the day before he left he was still telling me how everything was wonderful and making plans for the future, and know what he said? "Stockholm Syndrome." When I asked why he did this to me overall, he said "I didn't do it TO YOU, I did this FOR MYSELF."

Seriously, based on the picture of him you have till now and these comments, is this person too far gone to ever come back? Cause at times I think he's playing a script and like everyone else who goes through this, and at other times I think he's really off the deep end, not on a script, and he's never going to see that he did something wrong and never attempt reconciliation. What do you think?