Exposed finally,,limbo land

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Wow, that many ALL CAPS and you're half asleep. I'd hate to see how forceful your advice would be if you were wide awake, LOL!

Puppy

[Optimust]

I really do appriciate you guys.

I'm not sure where I'm to post in the near future?

1. Infidelity
2. Mid life crisis
3. Seperated

I guess at this point I need to see if I'm served, in the meantime I have appointment with L to see what ramifications her taking money out of her 401k last week would have on a D now or in the distant future(hopefully won't need )

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I really do appriciate you guys.

I'm not sure where I'm to post in the near future?

1. Infidelity
2. Mid life crisis
3. Seperated

Wherever you feel most comfortable and best-supported/informed.

Puppy

[Optimust]

I guess I really feel that it bodaciously sucks huge that I could legitimately post in any and all (but I'm surely not alone there)

I will say that I'm getting either better at detaching, or just numb. I don't use nearly as much anxiety medicine.

I gotta be careful when we tell D8, because if she gets super emotional - I'm going to want to damage something in direct proportion to her pain.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Act with HONOR, Opti. This is something you want to be able to tell your daughters one day that you handled EVERYTHING with grace and dignity.

I know you will do the right thing.

Puppy

[Optimust]

Well, there seems to be some kind of trouble in paradise. Even though they have kept there TM and phone calls going, she hasn’t been able to see him since last Friday, and she says,’ He wont be around us(her and D14) on the 4th, you’ve ruined that for me’, after I asked her t make sure D14 was not around him, if the two of them did something without D8 and I.
Also said. “I don’t think what you’ve done is working how you thought, it may have hurt a couple of my friendships, but it doesn’t make me like you. You’ve totally alienated me from my family, and my BF is mad at me. Stop spreading rumors about me!”.(as close to yelling as she gets)
I said, “I’m not going to apologize for that. I did that for this family. I’m not spreading any rumors. I only told your family and my bro, and your best friend, and so-and-so’s husband(not pertinent other than he told his W, who is a mom she knows and has talked to since)”
She didn’t really apologize this morning, but was much nicer, and said she yelled at D14 yesterday also because of ‘that time of month’.
Crossing fingers and knocking on every piece of wood I see.

[Allen A]

Tell her you didn't spread rumours, SHE did that, YOU cleared them up by telling the truth...

[Puppy Dog Tails]

"I'm sorry you feel that way. Everything I've done, I"ve done to fight for our marriage and for our family."

"I decided that I was no longer willing to lie to cover up your affair."

Puppy

[Allen A]

THose are all gold as well...

[Optimust]

Dropped by house at lunch, she took all the quality stuff to her house, not that there was much, but. Had 2 GF and D14 boyfriend and his dad move stuff, so at least OM didn't come around(I don't think). It's wierd how just a few pieces of missing furniture and a couple missing pictures makes a house look not quite empty, maybe 'robbed' is the best description for it.

I still am having issues with D14 being like super happy to be in the other house. I know she is that way because of her age, and the fact that she has mom wrapped around her finger. Makes me feel bad, because up until now, I've been the discipline person, cause W wouldn't/couldn't do it, so D14 has got to be looking at it like, "Good - no more chores and consequences or rules that are enforced". I'm very scared for how this is going to play out for her.