I should also mention that my appt with the counselor ran a little long (1 hr and then extra 15 minutes! Yay me!), was very insightful and informative and she gave me 'permission' to draw the hardline boundary with Dan as well as the motivation to do so. Good deal.
Since I have been kindof in the same camp as you regarding too much contact with my STBXW, and getting yanked around on a rollercoaster/treadmill or whatever you want to call it, I'm curious as to what you mean by drawing a hardline boundary - how will you implement it and what was the motivation the IC gave you to do so. Thanks.
