Allen, Bluestar, Silverado - you are right. He probably won't find out for awhile. Darn! I was hoping for immediate explosion I've got my darned military uniform on and don't know what to do with myself.
His sister responded to my email via text message: "Just got your email. you have our 100% suport and i agree with everything you said. we should prob talk about approach. from ur end and ours. at this point my mom dad and i don't even have a relationship with him anymore. too disgusted. but your thoughts are rational and good. the only question is what is realistic here? what does your research show?" We are going to get together tomorrow. Don't think I'll tell her about exposure at work yet, but just give her some simple principles and some possible help. Would love it if she would call OW and tell her that the family will never welcome her and that she broke up my daughter's family. I know that's asking a lot, though. Not sure how I woudl have reacted if I'd never been in this sitaution and someone askd me to do that.
I've got my darned military uniform on and don't know what to do with myself.