Should I restart my other thread for more indepth help on my own behaviour since I'm not seeing the results I'm expecting? i.e. My 'detachment' hasn't changed my behavior towards her that much. My concern is that she is likely not seeing the R w/ me as being much better if she reconsiders? Staying may not be much more attractive than it was. Other than some of the new things I have just started to put into place from No More Nice Guy. (These are HUGE BTW.) I found as much of my "contributions" to our sitch in this book as I did in DB/DR.
Just got back from IC and thanks to Sandi and PDT, I've been doing the same things that you've been doing. My IC said that the actions and the change I've made in the last month give me the best chance for possible reconciliation. Your actions are showing your wife clarity...same with my WW. And if you don't end up reconciling, YOU are still that much better off in the long run.
I also started reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and so far that is my life story chapter and verse...I've started to put actions from that book into place as well.
Last edited by loweinsd51; 07/01/1009:38 PM.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
