I'm gonig through the same as you know and like BBJ said I'm being punitive rather than being calm, cool and confident.
I guess I just don't know how to do that. I can't visualize what a calm, cool, confident Romeo would do under these circumstances and during these interactions.
I told my counselor just that. I said anymore when the phone rings and it's him, I really don't know how to act. Ignore the call, answer and be short, answer and be cheerful, sheesh! She said honestly at this point I should just limit our interactions as much as possible. Only essential communication about the kids. So ignore the phone calls, check voicemail. If it is urgent they will leave a message with the important information. If they don't, then it doesn't warrant a call-back. Make sense?
