Do you have to keep reminding me they are in first?
Just kidding.
I understand your thought process. Reviewed it with my counselor today in fact. I have tried to 'love unconditionally' and 'take the high road' for so long thinking he would see that I am a 'good person'...she said if our exspouses were logical and rational at this time, they would see that. However one of the reasons we have gotten to this point in our marriages is that they are not acting logically or rationally. Or as she says, "You can't have a satisfying conversation with a 'crazymaker'." And it is true...
Conversely I have gotten to the point recently like you, where I thought, "Well I tried to be nice guy and that didn't work, so time to be the b!tch." But 1)That isn't my real nature so I don't feel comfortable with it and 2)Then it is more being punitive then truly distancing myself, so I am just as enmeshed with him, but in a different way. Make sense?
