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she's got the kids. and she's not willing to share them with me or agree to any sort of arrangement. how do I detach with love while she does this?


IMO - you hire a very good lawyer and fight to get your kids. Separate the R with your kids with the R with your W. You can do this with love. You can approach it using your mind and not your anger and hurt. If you look hard you will see that she is using the kids as a means to get you back for the pain and hurt that she endured. She may be doing it subconsiously - either way she is doing it. Either way - her issues or anger are not YOUR issue to deal with. YOU need to deal with your issues first. IMO, the issues that you may want to look at are:

1) How do I try to form a R with my kids without throwing everything away.

2) How do I really look at (with a truly open heart) my role in this.

3) How do I stop being angry

4) How do I find my happiness

BTW - in honor of missher...have a cold one tonight...or two...or three..

Eric

"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans