I guess that I do feel entitled to some degree... I worked very hard for my family over the last 9 years to get a job that would allow us to pay off our debts and begin living a happy life together. All of those nights, all of those days, all that lack of sleep is tolerable to some degree because you know that some day you are working towards a better life for you and your family. when people ask me what I do I tell them I work at the hospital.. or I am a doctor. I didn't do what I do to prance around town as the BMOC... I did it because it I felt challenged by it, interested in it... compelled to do it. so with all that being said, I guess I feel entitled to reap some of the benefits from all those hard years and all that hard work. not to be living alone, missing my boys, being betrayed by my wife. I don't think I "deserve" that... so perhaps I do feel entitled to a better outcome than the one I got. Also- all of my peers are living the dream now-- they have wives who stuck with them and are now doing their thing. So I do look across the fence at that and envy that.
So....
You have reached the pinnacle of your profession with a LOT of hard work, patience ( and patients) only to find out that what you really wanted, you hadn't really worked for and put the same kind of devotion toward , that you did to become a surgeon....???
Is that the nutshell ???
So WHY did you ?
And not some sacrificing verbage of the family either...
Cause it took you NINE years to do this and your boys are SEVEN...
Why did you allow your career to define Bradley then....(regardless of what you say, it shows )
And only recently, have you begun to see that differently ?
Why do you expect to reap the harvest from a crop you rarely tended ?
And how do you think this appears to your wife ?
Now Brad gets it...Now Brad wants the boys...Now Brad can kiss my a$$...
This is about you my friend.....
Look, I'm not the least bit concerned with your marriage here....
