you said you were going to move there with stipulations then you decided against it and stayed put and are now fighting for custody
she didn't want me there. she told me she wanted me living somewhere else-- I was going to rent another house there. I only stayed put when she showed her cards and made it clear that she would make it difficult to see the kids and might bolt... so for me to commit career haricari under those circumstances just seemed wrong. now... was it? who knows.
well-- I pay for her house either way. I have supported her completely. why not do it in the town where I live fig?
I believe my boys, in the long run, will know that they were the most important thing to me. they will know that I fought for them. they will understand that their mother took them away from me without a good reason, forcing me to take her to court. ultimately, when I give up heart surgery which is probably what's going to happen-- they will really know.
now: what have HER actions taught them about her? that marriage is something that can just be thrown away? that the sanctity of marriage is a joke? that putting yourself before your kids is how you live your life? and in my heart of hearts I know that I have not done that-- and will continue to put them first. in an odd reversal I honestly believe that I am now that role player-- and my wife is more concerned about herself than them.
BTW--
I love what you said about being a friend. that was really nice. I liked that a lot. and is helpful to me.
