I believe there are a few ways to detach, you have to find the right way for your situation.
For you mza8 I think if you think of her more as a friend and treat her as you would treat some other female friend, you will have a better disposition.
People do change over time little by little unbeknownst to the individual.
It's like seeing a friend everyday and you see a gradual weight gain in them. However someone who hasn't seen them in awhile would be suprised to see how much weight they gained.
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