thank you for your thoughts. I think you have hit the nail on the head with much of it.
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MLC hits and she decides she's not going to accept Brad as he is. He sets about trying to change that to the extent that he can without losing himself along the way. He's willing to give up his career to be closer to her and the boys and again that's not good enough. What is it going to take to make this right for her? Answer: Nothing, while she is going through this. This is something he can't fix for her. She has to face the issues for herself. What purpose would it serve to throw the career that you both fought for away to have her change her mind as to what she wants again?
This, in a nutshell (pardon the pun), is why I did what I did... I can always throw away my career and do something else. for now I'm sticking with it. I wanted to end it on my terms, when I knew for sure it was the right decision. my boys will be 7 soon. the way I see it, if I can't get them here I can and probably will head up that way to be closer to them... what I will be doing I'm not sure. I believe that I can still have a great 10 years with them wherever they are as a (?). I told this to my wife today and she said, "oh great-- so I gave up 10 years of my life for you to give it all up? you have all that debt.."... well... I suppose that is one way to look at it.
I told her that I wasn't going to have the boys growing up in another state without me... so I'll make the sacrifices I need to make in order to do that.
