So you are telling me to get ruthless, request that she move out and get this set-up like the divorce will look, right?
All you are is a source of income in the courtroom. Since this is a business decision that can impact you for years to come then your L needs to be looking out for you. I know how hard this is but let your L do what he needs to do to protect your interests.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.