Re-Connecting

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I was going to suggest the exact same thing, Greek. Swear to God.

[Coach]

I wouldn't call myself a "cooler head" but how about a ...

just keep on going Coach, don't take the bait.

But I would call you a "puddinhead."

[Fightingforher]

Well, the W didn't get home until 11pm lastnight. She had no idea I was gone. I would have stayed out later but 5am comes quick.....

I spoke with her today briefly and very light conversation. I mentioned to her that I will be going out most of the day and into the night on Saturday. She said if I'm going out on Sat then she will take Friday.

I just found that I may be able to purchase the home after all with the help of my father. Just waiting for all the confirmations to come through.

Still in limboland just doing my own thing... Not sure whatelse to do.

[DanF]

Great news on the house!!! I really hope it works out for you.

[Fightingforher]

I came home and told my W the news about the house. She just sat there and looked at me with a blank stare. She again told me how concerned she was about not being able to afford her own place.

She immediately jumped on the phone with a realtor to look at a rental she was interested in. She went upstairs for awhile and I think called OM to tell him what was going on. We put son to bed and she went right to her room.

I think this is the right step, she is showing no signs to reconcile and being apart will hopefully bring us closer, I hope...... At least for our son I hope we can stay amicable and eventually friends. I'm not sure how to get her back to be my W so I should work on the next best thing.

[DanF]

Is there a next best thing? At the moment, I know I am supposed to be pretending not to care anymore (detachment). But you know what? I am getting tho the point where I really DON'T care anymore. I'm not sure what the next best thing really is.........

Sorry to rain on you, but I just don't know anymore.

I hope things work out the way you want them to and I am VERY glad to hear about your house situation.

All the best to you!!!

[Fightingforher]

Ok now I'm really confused. A woman I know at work is going through a
D. We obviously have an instant connection since we are going through the same mess. This woman called me lastnight and we had a nice conversation.

We talked very little about D but we talked about how she is processing and moving forward. Little did I know my W was listening to our conversation. This morning she was going come with me to take son to swim lessons.

She was getting ready and I asked how soon she'd be ready to go. She said I'm not going. I asked why and she said "I don't want to talk to you". I said ok see you later. She said I won't be home tonight. I said ok

I left and she sent me a text. It said "get this refy done asap, I won't be here when you are here. It's pathetic you sneak around to talk to this chick"

ummmm isn't that what she's been doing the past few months?????

I haven't responded to text

[TimeHeals]

Well, it's your "instant connection" mess, you clean it up.

Shaking my head at you.


Like you are in any shape to have an "instant connection".

Maybe she's your "soul mate"? Sarcasm intended.

Two people on the rebound. How beautiful. I just hope you aren't the OM in her M.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I left and she sent me a text. It said "get this refy done asap, I won't be here when you are here. It's pathetic you sneak around to talk to this chick"

ummmm isn't that what she's been doing the past few months?????

I haven't responded to text

Good; DON'T.

[Fightingforher]

Her D is final they were going through a costody battle now. There is no rebounding for me, it was just nice to hear that after a couple of years she was able to move forward.