Hey everybody... its been a long time

[ericmsant2]

Brad
First off…damn dude…it seems like the old times… Sorry about the poor taste joke. You know I love ya man. Seriously thought….

but she is the kind of person who lies to get what she wants. she uses her children like pawns and crutches. does not do what is in their best interest. she thinks that the vows we took she could just throw away. she has no remorse. she has no conscience. she has no morality.

Dude – this came across as anger – it lacked the compassion that I know right now is hard to grasp. Trust me I know. Deep down inside she is the person that you fell in love with. She just doesn’t know how to fix herself so she has become what you are now seeing. You are the cause of her pain in her mind. Every little thing that you ever did has probably been replayed in her mind. Her feelings and actions should NOT change yours. You are a nice guy. I know this first hand. As hard as it may seem right now, you cannot loose who YOU really are and you are doing this by allowing her issues to make you angry. Is some of this normal – ahyep! You though can choose to be better than that. You can choose to not allow her f’d up choice to harden you. This does not mean to bend as it relates to the kids. NO F’in way here. What I does mean IMO…is do what you need to do in LOVE. You will do this as you heal…as you find the true YOU.

if I had the sense that she would be fair, that she would give me access to the boys, and that she would want me to be there where I can co-parent the boys and we could peacefully co-exist I would never have hesitated. but as the days got closer to the move it became clear that she had no intention of doing so

No she is probably not going to be fair…remember she feels entitled and in some cases she may have a point BUT it does not mean that you hand over the kids. You can fight the good fight. You can do what Bradley know is true and just. IMO – that is being the parent that you want to be. In the end, only a judge can decide.

In the end dude…you need to be happy. Knowing you the way that I do…you really need to let her go. Completely. Just let her the F go. Go find your happiness. Could it be with someone else – yep…could it be back with her…maybe BUT only if you let go of her, let go of the past, let go of the pain, let go of the old M.
In terms of your job…dude..I know you have a family to feed. I do. I know first hand the crap that she put you through…you know what. You did what you thought was right. If you believe in it AND if it makes you happy then go for it. As long as it does not impact your kids. Go for it. Do what you need to do…BUT first – let go of the anger and hurt. It takes time buddy. Stop looking at her…

I’ll be around tonight if you want to chat.

Eric