Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Detachment seems to be the hardest part for the LBS to grasp. Maybe we don't do a very good job explaining, but it's kind of hard to do. Try to think of it as a different way of thinking. It's not that you're being told to stop loving your W. That's not it at all. You've not been told to be mean or cold hearted toward her. You've been told to think with a different attitude in order to be a stronger person, right? You've been told how to behave in a better manner, right? Who told you to stop having feelings? As long as they are strong, positive, healthy emotions then who could object to that? You have been advised how to DB and what will make you a better person. We're hoping that you will be much more attractive to your W, but if she presists in wannting a D...you will be strong instead of co-dependent of her. Isn't that what you want? Surely you do not want to be in an unhealthy R with her.

How can I help you wrap this around your head better?

Thanks Sandi. I can wrap my head around this explanation. This makes more sense to me. I guees I thought letting go of my W (detachment) meant letting go of my feelings (love) for her. Glad I was wrong about that.