I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Ok some exposure updating: I have talked to one of his family members and while my main reason to contact this person was to apologize for some of my past behavior with the family where I was very distant and uncaring, this family member contacted me back saying what he was doing was just beyond horrible and that I needed to find a person who would treat me better. I was really surprised to hear that. Well my H is now FURIOUS at me, called me up screaming, I hung up on him. I had communicated to him earlier that it wasn't my job to keep this secret for him and that it would get out. In fact, I said if you and she are so proud of what you're doing, go tell everyone instead of hiding behind closed doors.

So then after I hung up he emailed saying "NOW I've had it. You're trying to influence me, it is OVER THE LINE to contact any member of my family when I'm trying to repair relationships with them, I'm' not contacting your friends or family to make them take sides, you should not be doing it either. I've owned up to what I did but your accusations are out of control and stop what you're doing RIGHT NOW."

So is that the reaction I want? It's kind of scary. I have a hard time seeing how this works in my favor, but you guys are the experts on this stuff, so what do I know ;-)