I am not going to post anything about the current state of this mess but I am going to post this for myself and if my husband chooses to read this. What about the hurt I am going through? What about the pain I have felt for the past year? Does that mean anything? No contact means no contact so not even a text message or anything should be done if he cares about his family at all. I know he is a good person deep down inside...and I know an affair is an addiction..but the pain that we have felt as a family and me, as an individual is huge. Our daughter has felt the effects of this and she is 5!!! I dont care HOW OW is feeling..he has only known her for a short time..what about how d is feeling..she is a poor innocent child! I am a wife who has done nothing but love and support my h in the best way I have known how and the fact that that means so little really breaks my heart. What about my sleepless nights, my anxiety, what about having to deal with my daughter hearing that it is I made her daddy leave? What about that...SO here are some facts that I would like to post:
The chance of a successful relationship born of infidelity is not even one in 100. A marriage that starts in infidelity has no foundation. You go into it with guilt, shame, angst, worry, and all the baggage that comes with that. Add to that managing your ex and going through possible custody battles for children. Is it worth it?
If you have children and you are cheating on your spouse, your children will suffer. You are turning their lives upside down, fracturing their family unit and destroying their peace and harmony.
Think ahead to what the courts might think of you as a parent. You may think your partner wouldn't fight you on custody, but people change when they get into a divorce court. Your spouse might just decide that the person who stole his/her partner will not steal the children as well. If you enter the divorce arena in the midst of infidelity, you have put your children in play. Again, ask yourself, is it worth it?
Keep in mind, you can no longer be in contact with the person you were having an affair with. Avoid the places you know he/she frequents, change your phone numbers, and if you're unsure of your strength in staying away from him/her, then move. If you're so out of control that you're like a moth to a flame, then get away from the candle!
