I am going to see my attorney to discuss finances and all other issues to be decided on out Temporary Hearing that will determine how things will work between now and the final divorce date. Things such as living arrangements, child placement, child support, maintenance (alimony), etc.
When my W first spoke to her attorney, the attorney wanted her to request that I be ordered out of the house to live separately. My W said no, take that request out of the paperwork, because we are planning to live together for the interim because we cannot afford to live separately at this time. (Not sure how we will afford it later then either!) That position pretty much settles child placement, but there still could be money transfer issues, I don't know at this point.
When I told her that she needs to go back to work full-time now, she said, "I can't go back to work full-time right now." I asked Why not? She said, "Because there are no full-time positions available (for her current position in our immediate area) and I am going to need to be here for the kids." I said, "We are both going to need to be here for the kids." When I mentioned this to my attorney, she said, "then your W can go out and get a part-time job to supplement her income!" I really hope the judge orders that or at least bases any payments on the income she could earn working full-time.
At the moment, I am thinking, if she really wants a D, then why don't we set this up like is would/could look after the D is final?
Depending upon what the court rules for child placement, likely 50%/50%, it is possible that I may be able to afford to buy her out and stay in the family residence. I believe that it is extremely unlikely that she could afford to stay there, barring extreme unforseen circumstances.
So, should I have my attorney ask the court to order my W out of the house, set-up placement of the children and financial payments as they might look at the end of this thing? Or is it too harsh to push her out like that? There is no guarantee that the court would order it, and I will discuss this with my attorney tomorrow, but I was hoping for your guys thought on this.
This seems pretty ruthless to me, but I can be ruthless if I have to. She says this is what she wants, right? She just doesn't want it RIGHT NOW. She wants it on her terms and for me to make it possible for her to ease into it and to have it all her way! BS. I almost can't believe that I just typed that.
Or, is it better for rebuilding the relationship to keep her at home?
