It’s true I was depressed prior to him leaving but had begun to feel better just before he left. Needy– my H words not mine, to quote ‘I need someone who needs me’, the OW is a friend of mine I know her well and independent minded she’s not. I’ve filed and have had other men hanging around. The more I move forward the angrier he becomes. That’s what I find so confusing.
He’s only told one of the kids that he loves her not me so I can’t suddenly tell him that I get that he loves her. He hardly speaks to me so it wouldn’t come up.
And yes you’re right sometimes he does make my skin crawl.
My question was theoretical as much as based on my experience but thanks for taking the time to answer on a personal level.
