I believe that a few of the women who are saying they are "independent and strong" have got it backwards.....
It seems you are saying you were independent and strong or at least you want to believe that you were, while you were in your relationship...
Let me use my wonderful wife as an example of how I view an independent and strong woman...
Mrs. Gooch is the most flexible, giving, thoughtful woman I have ever known. She does things for me WITHOUT asking.. She would dig ditches with me all day long if I needed her help. She allows me to lead and yet still gives her opinion if necessary.. But always in a very gentle kind spirit. She walks by me and touches me just because.. She tells me how great I am.. She playfully makes fun of me when the Gooch is full of himself.
Weak and clingy????? Not in your life... That isn't weak an clingy. I WANT her to show me how much she loves me. Why wouldn't I? I dont want her to show the strength and independence you are talking about WHILE IN a love relatinship.. That is silly.
HOWEVER... The Gooch knows her well enough to know without a shadow of a doubt that if he EVER took advantage of her by having an affair or any number of other treatments of her that are unacceptable...
Mrs. GOOCH would get real strong real quick.. She would blot me out of her life and be as strong as she needed to be.
THERE is the difference ladies... I think most all of us men enjoy and like to be with a woman who thinks we are all of that and a loaf of bread... The difference is when we test you. If you fail those tests of your inner strength, then you are destined to lose him. We do need a little challenge to keep us on our toes...
Read the thread from "Mystik".... She is exactly what I am talking about.. Loved her husband dearly... He was her whole life.. Nothing wrong with that..
HER MISTAKE is that she failed and is still failing to RISE UP AND GET STRONG NOW... NOW is the time for her to show him what she is made of... It hurts to see her failing and I read and see her answer, but can't get through to her because she is too focused on the "poor pitiful me".. She doesn't want get him back bad enough if she can't see how getting strong would very possibley bring him back.
