Control is NOT a bad word.. the alternative is OUT Of control... which describes your marriage right now doens't it?
Reducing control right now would just allow the marriage to become even MORE derailed...
Stick to your guns... you are NOT in a position right now to start being nice... There are OTHER positive changes you can make in the marriage to make it more inviting, but going SOFT on him because he doesn't like commitment and schedule or doens't like taking direction is NOT a good idea...
People having affairs almost ALWAYS accuse their spouses of being too controlling...
If you ask me they werne't controlling the marriage enough... no one was and it ended up falling off the tracks...
It is time TO take control of the marriage again.. I stand by the letter... take your power and initiative an your dignitiy BACK...
