Hijacking IS allowed on this thread...It is even welcomed..
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My H left me, an independant minded woman, for a weak, clingy one. How is that? Strength and agreeing with him as per your precription have sent him more towards her not away.
I see he has been gone for over TWO YEARS.. I see that you say that you were depressed... You seem to have also begun to believe that the OW is weak and clingy. I usually try not to take what a BS tells me as the gospel of what is REALLY going on.
Here is the bottom line in your situation ....
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He says he's in love with OW and wants no more to do with me.
Is he any different than you or I when we feel we love someone? Would another man be able to pull YOU away from a man you love? Then why would you think it would be different for you or me?
This is your agree with him answer. "OK, I realize that you love her.I don't know why I didn't understand that is what you have been saying all along. I get it. You LOVE HER."
It has been long enough for you.. Your best chance is to bring another man into your life that your WS sees that you are getting very interested in. He will not be coming back until that happens. He may not come back after that happens. However, I encourage you to stop waiting for him. It isn't working. Find another man that WANTS to be with you and treats you like you are a queen. Suddenly your WS will turn your stomach.
Sorry, but that is your answer.... For you.. and maybe even for him..
